12 Ways to Help Someone Going through a Mental Health Struggle

We talk about holistic wellness a lot (and this is an understatement!) and a part of that means that caring for your mental health is just as important as physical health, yet it often doesn’t get the same level of attention. When someone you care about is struggling with anxiety, depression, or other mental health battles, it can be really difficult to know what to do or say. But showing up, even in small ways, can make a significant difference for the people in your life. Support doesn’t have to be complicated or grand acts; sometimes, just knowing that someone is there can be enough. Here are twelve meaningful ways to support a loved one through a mental health struggle.

1. Listen Without Judgment

One of the most powerful things you can do for someone is to simply listen. Let them share their thoughts and feelings without interrupting, offering solutions, or minimizing their experience. Be a sounding board and safe space for them to share what is on their heart and mind. Avoid statements like “it’s not that bad” or “just think positive.” Instead, validate their emotions by saying things like, “That sounds really tough,” or “I’m here for you.” Listening with empathy creates a safe space where they feel heard and understood.

2. Check In Regularly

Consistency is key when supporting someone with mental health struggles. They may not always reach out when they need help, so taking the initiative to check in can be a lifeline. A simple text or call asking, “How are you feeling today?” or “I’m thinking about you” can remind them that they are not alone. Even if they don’t always respond, your ongoing presence provides comfort and stability.

3. Offer Practical Help

When someone is struggling, even small tasks can feel overwhelming. Offer specific ways to help, such as cooking a meal, running errands, or helping with household chores. Instead of saying, “Let me know if you need anything,” try something more concrete, like, “I can pick up groceries for you this week” or “Would you like me to come over and help tidy up?” These small gestures can ease their stress and show that you genuinely care.

4. Encourage Professional Support

While your support is valuable, mental health professionals are equipped to provide specialized help as the trained professionals, especially with more severe mental health battles. Gently encourage your loved one to seek therapy or counseling if they haven’t already. You can offer to help research therapists, accompany them to an appointment, or simply reassure them that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Avoid pressuring them, but remind them that they don’t have to face their struggles alone and that there are amazing resources available to help them.

5. Be Patient and Understanding

Healing in any capacity isn’t linear, and some days will be harder than others. Mental health struggles can cause mood swings, withdrawal, or canceled plans, but it’s important not to take these personally. Show patience by letting them know you understand and will be there for them, even when they pull away. Reassure them that your support is unconditional and that it’s okay to take things one step at a time.

6. Educate Yourself About Mental Health

Understanding what your loved one is going through can help you support them better. Read about their specific challenges, whether it’s anxiety, depression, PTSD, or another condition. Learning about symptoms, triggers, and coping strategies can prevent misunderstandings and help you respond in a more compassionate and informed way. Education also helps break the stigma surrounding mental health, making it easier to have open conversations.

7. Respect Their Boundaries

Everyone has different comfort levels when it comes to discussing mental health. Some people may want to talk openly, while others prefer more privacy. Pay attention to their cues and respect their boundaries. If they don’t feel like talking, don’t push them—simply let them know you’re there whenever they are ready. Respecting their space while maintaining a supportive presence is a delicate but essential balance.

8. Engage in Activities Together

Sometimes, distractions can be helpful. Invite your loved one to do activities that don’t require deep conversations but still foster connection. Go for a walk, watch a movie, cook a meal together, or do something creative like painting or playing music. These activities can serve as gentle reminders that joy and connection are still possible, even during difficult times.

9. Help Them Build a Routine

Mental health struggles can make even basic daily tasks feel exhausting. Encouraging a simple, manageable routine can provide a sense of stability. Offer to exercise together, have regular meal check-ins, or set small goals for the day. Routines don’t have to be rigid, just having a loose structure can help someone feel more in control of their day-to-day life.

10. Remind Them of Their Strengths

When someone is struggling, it’s easy for them to focus on their perceived weaknesses or failures. Be the voice that reminds them of their strengths. Share specific examples of times they’ve shown resilience, kindness, or courage. Let them know they are valued and appreciated, even when they don’t feel their best. Encouraging words can help shift their mindset, even if only for a moment.

11. Offer a Safe Space

Sometimes, people just need a place where they can be themselves without fear of judgment. Let your loved one know they can express their emotions freely with you. If they need to cry, vent, or sit in silence, be there without trying to fix anything. A safe and accepting presence can be one of the greatest gifts you can offer.

12. Encourage Self-Care Without Pressure

Self-care looks different for everyone. Encourage them to take care of themselves in ways that feel right for them, whether that’s taking a bath, journaling, meditating, or spending time in nature. Avoid making it seem like a “cure” but rather a tool that can provide small moments of relief. If they struggle with self-care, gently suggest doing something together, like attending a RESET session or going for a light walk.

What Not to Do

While support is crucial, certain actions can be harmful, even if unintentional. Avoid minimizing their feelings by saying things like “just snap out of it” or “other people have it so much worse.” Don’t pressure them to socialize if they’re not ready, and don’t offer unsolicited advice unless they ask for it. Most importantly, don’t make their struggles about you and instead focus on listening and being there for them without expecting anything in return.

The Connection Between Mental and Physical Health

Mental and physical health are deeply intertwined. Just as we take care of our bodies through exercise and nutrition, we need to also care for our minds, and can be hugely helpful for supporting the mental health of the other people in our life. Stress, anxiety, and depression can manifest physically, affecting sleep, digestion, and overall well-being. Prioritizing mental health is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. By showing up for the people in our lives, we contribute to a culture that values emotional well-being just as much as physical health.

Supporting someone through a mental health struggle doesn’t mean you have to fix their problems, it simply means being present, patient, and having compassion for the things they are struggling with. Small acts of kindness and an empathetic ear can make a profound difference for the people you care about. Remember that professional help is always an option, and encouraging someone to seek it can be a meaningful step. Above all, let the people in your life know they are not alone. A little support can go a long way in their healing journey and it will make you feel good too, knowing you were able to help in a small way.